OK group - I have to try one more time, bear with me. Old lady thinks she permitted.
I refer back to what I said to Lani. But it also has to do with many of the "what's the use" comments we post (nails). I know, I've heard them, I've said them.
Let me first talk about myself. I started using my friend "the stick" about 2-3 years ago, but only when I had to. I hate my friend BTW. Airport transport-foreign travel-and foreign terminals came first, now occasionally big airports.
Not one of my neighbors has recommended that I keep my home. I have mostly decided to keep it still. When outside in July I made one change when outside to do my yard stuff. I couldn't breathe. Took me too long to get to a place to sit and take a break, I tried not to panic, I tried to breathe. I do carry a phone out with me, have for a while. Soooo, I told myself "stupid, dial the damn 911." 3-4 minutes help was here, shoving tubes and air everwhere. Took me away for a week's vacation. Now I still have checkup calls from hosp and neighbors "because they really do care!!!!!! When do smart people really decide Now Be Smart, do what's wise, accept the change, and that we must keep changing. Three months it will be 80. I don't want anyone to think they did something wrong if I was just stupid wrong.
A year and half ago I lost my Tony. I was sure he needed help. He didn't want it brought up. He never said no - he didn't come close to talking things over. Ignored what he thought and what I thought. Now I sit and talk to the TV and my forum friends.
Another sign of the way things go - You have all heard of my neighbor Michael, such a nice guy. Helped Tony and me a lot, still is helping me. Well, he had another motorcycle crunch while traveling with his buddies out east. Had a not as bad one 3 years ago. And, things started years ago when directing traffic, he was very seriously injured. Told then to stop working and give up the bike. He gave up working don'cha know. I have to believe he's older and wiser. First he mentioned his angel of a wife taking him through these days. He says he owes her big time; she shouldn't have to go through things alone if something happens again to him again. I believe if Ton had any idea of how things are going for me he would have been taking advise more readily.
I know now why there's such short "thank you" when we are helped or offered good ideas. We don't want to accept being human. Just Saturday our small development of 15 houses had our block barbeque. Good sign that the most newest of new neighbors came this year. Bought house 2021, still unsettled 2022, made it this year. Hello Adam and Kellie and Adam's son. Rain stopped in time, didn't start again until things stored away, people walked home. I needed help with big bowl of bruschetta pasta salad. The husband came and carried it down the block - I had to carry me. But when more had arrived too many times people offered to do or offered to get or made sure I was OK. Which I nicely advised them "I admit I need help and ask and say please." And I mean it sincerely. I admit to them and I admit to myself. It's easier and nicer result.
Other neighbor, other side, Peter called Sunday morning asking if he could stop by and change the lightbulbs kitchen fixture. (He saw from his house cuz my higher level is above their main floor. Who knew how much they were watching. But he did know I wasn't allowed on ladders. Ahhh).
BTW I let Julie know that Michael did mention the possibility of him not replacing the Harley. Told her so she can plan ahead for any discussion.
OK
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