The wake is over. Debbie did a great job. Mary surprised her by inviting about 25 people who were not on the guest list and who had not RSVP'd. Debbie was shocked and afraid we would run out of everything including space. However we lucked out in every way and all had a pleasant experience for such a sad occasion.
Debbie's good friends Chris and Luann provided some appropriate background music on their guitars and singing. Mary and Debbie spoke of John's impact on their lives and the loss they are feeling.
So I will say CUL EV1 GBU, John, Joan, and Ukraine.